Working models and relationship quality in dating
People with anxious-preoccupied attachment type tend to agree with the following statements: "I want to be completely emotionally intimate with others, but I often find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like", and "I am uncomfortable being without close relationships, but I sometimes worry that others don't value me as much as I value them." People with this style of attachment seek high levels of intimacy, approval, and responsiveness from their attachment figure.
They sometimes value intimacy to such an extent that they become overly dependent on the attachment figure.
The claim is that the core principles of attachment theory apply to both kinds of relationships.
Investigators tend to describe the core principles of attachment theory in light of their own theoretical interests.
Four main styles of attachment have been identified in adults: Investigators have explored the organization and the stability of mental working models that underlie these attachment styles.
They have also explored how attachment impacts relationship outcomes and how attachment functions in relationship dynamics.
People with a dismissive style of avoidant attachment tend to agree with these statements: "I am comfortable without close emotional relationships", "It is important to me to feel independent and self-sufficient", and "I prefer not to depend on others or have others depend on me." People with this attachment style desire a high level of independence.
The desire for independence often appears as an attempt to avoid attachment altogether.
Often they report greater satisfaction and adjustment in their relationships than people with other attachment styles.
Romantic relationships, for example, serve as a secure base that help people face the surprises, opportunities, and challenges life presents.
Similarities such as these led Hazan and Shaver to extend attachment theory to adult relationships.
Adults are described as having 4 attachment styles: Secure, Anxious–preoccupied, Dismissive–avoidant, and Fearful–avoidant.
The secure attachment style in adults corresponds to the secure attachment style in children.The anxious–preoccupied attachment style in adults corresponds to the anxious–ambivalent attachment style in children.